在我国，父亲或男性在每一部分生活中的支配地位仍然存在于我们的文化中。“女人应该在厨房里，男人应该去工作” 或者 “女人应该在家里照顾好孩子，而男人应该去挣钱”。因为这种偏见，我在挑战我自己。一个有远大梦想的女孩，离家4000英里，十九岁，独自居住在国外，经济上稳定，打破了人们通常在我国看待女人的陈规旧俗。
When I still kid, I was really familiar with an old saying "women shouldn't dream big because they born to placed in kitchen, no matter what"
In my country, the dominance in paternal side or man's domination in every sections of live still exist as one of our culture. "Woman should be in kitchen, Men should go to work" or "woman should be at home take care of children, while men ought to get money" because of this stereotypes, I'm challenging myself, a girl with big dream, 4000 miles away from home, as a teenager, living abroad alone and financially stable. Break the stereotypes of how people typically see a woman in my country.
My dad was passed away when I still 13, because the lack of father's guiding in my teenage time, I learn to know life by my single mother, she is an independent woman and patient to her children even sometimes gets angry easily. The burden of being a single mother and being a woman makes me learn a lot from her, so does the reason why I decide to went far away from her. From the age of 13, I already learn to bear my own pocket money such as work as an English private tutor, selling foods, or working in street food vendors. Yet as well, in my country this kind of works are often seeing as a cheap labour even you're not work for money.
Last year I arrived in Changzhou, one of most developed city in Jiangsu Province. I’m pursuing my bachelor in Hotel Management. Before came to China, I still have the stereotypes of Asian culture which privileged men. But there's another case when I arrive in Changzhou. I see women working in almost every sector of place, I saw them as a public transportation driver, cleaning services, doing the construction, go to office, teaching students and they work in the same place with men. I feel like they are placed equally like men. In summer where Changzhou's temperature would reach more than 40 degree celcius, every women are freely to use any kind of cute dress that they want to show up, its all because the temperature was too hot and wearing mini dress are acceptable. Meanwhile in my country we are afraid of being publicly judged or having sexual abuse by the men around. Some nights I feel really safe to walk alone from the nearest train station after 10 pm if I was come back late from leaving town. Blame me for coming back late, but how safe Changzhou just reminds me of my home. This year of Woman's Day, some nearby fruit shops around my campus were gave every passerby women a gift cause its our day! It makes me really happy cause they celebrate Woman's day. Even Taobao and some online marketplace are celebrating Woman's day by giving discount for women. I feel respected, cause they appreciate the small thing like this. Another day when I walk, I often seeing the guys always take theirs girlfriend or wives bags and put them in their shoulders, such a really cute thing ever and could make me smile even just saw them far away. The guys do it cause he respect the girls, not because the girls are weak to take her own bags.
I feel respected, I feel a freedom, and I get the right of human being just as a woman. I feel free to wear anything I want no matter what colour or shapes cause its your right to wear it. I feel safe to walking and have a city tour in Changzhou alone cause you are just want to go. I feel respected with the warmest smile from every single shops around cause you're also a human.
And Then, after a year of living in Changzhou, I've just realized I've changed to be a very independent person, a brave one, and unconditionally love myself. Just by learning new culture, and living a new life in Changzhou.